The first stage to recovery is acceptance.

We all like to think that we are good people, but the only way you can validate that is to see what makes you bad. For example, I typically think that just because I’m an empathetic person- because I cry out of joy and sadness for other people, that I can empathize for a pencil or an ant- that I’m a good person. But I also have a capitalist way of thinking. I think that if someone doesn’t earn reward, they don’t “deserve” it. First of all, why should I care? It’s not bothering me or affecting my life. It’s simply benefitting someone else. Shouldn’t I feel happy for them? I’m not their teacher, where I have the duty to tell them they need to earn something to deserve it. Why can’t I celebrate them? I’ll refuse to see things in another perspective, because I think my way is right; leading to later reflection and understanding that perhaps I really wasn’t. When I reflect on my bad qualities, I realize that I create wasted time for myself, putting quarters into lottery machines of negativity. I guess my lesson to myself here is, validate your revelations (positive or negative) by creating an option for a realistic denial of existence.

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